Why wait!

"If only I had (fill in the blank) everything would be different."  When was the last time you told yourself this?
The statement is usually followed with the promise of happiness, being able to walk with your head up high and some other thing that you will be able to do once you had what you wished for.
What if I told you that once you got what you wanted, things probably would not change with your emotions, and if they did it would be very temporary if you haven't started to train yourself to be the person your longing to be.

Let's use money as an example:  "Once I have more money, I'll be so happy."

People make this statement all the time and I'm sure once money is put into your life, you will be extremely happy, generous and more confident to do what you want.  All this could be temporary if your already an emotional wreck.  Now you can tell yourself that you'll be able pay lots of money for counseling, get a coach or even go on a weekend retreat to change your emotions, these are all things you could achieve with money, right?  The old cliche says -Money can't buy happiness, take that fact right now and accept it.

In your personal circle of friends or people you know, how many are successful and have lots of money?  Do they have problems in their relationships?  Of course!  Do they suffer from insecurity, loneliness and jealousy?  Of course!  On the other side, there are some people who are full of life, passion and drive, they achieved this not when they got successful but before and worked on themselves, emotionally and spiritually.
As your reading this I don't want to think I'm against money.  Zig Ziglar said "money isn't everything, but it ranks right up there with oxygen".  This blog isn't about money, it's about emotions.  I love money!
So like I was saying, once you get all the riches in the world, unless you start training yourself right now, you will not be a master of your emotional state.  Impatience, being angry and having anxiety could be something you live with for the rest of your life.
There is a great method I enjoyed using in the last few months has helped me out tremendously.  Working from the end in mind and work backwards.  So next time you tell yourself that " once I have (fill in the blank) I'll be..), figure out exactly how you will act, speak and interact with others and then start acting that way TODAY!!!  Yes, it's a long difficult process, yet you can look at it like a fake it till you make it attitude.  Slowly without even realizing it you change into that person, it's incredible.  This is what I mean:

Once I have 1 million dollars I will feel.....
Then start feeling it, acting like it and talking about it.

What emotion are you trying to get too once you get that big break in life?  Why not achieve it right now?  You can feel like a million bucks, you can feel exactly what you want, remember material isn't what makes you feel good, your mind makes you feel good.

If you'd like to understand methods you can use, you can contact me on FACEBOOK or e mail me at djonbreak@yahoo.com.  I've gotten over a paralysing fear that gripped me for almost a year!  Just a few weeks ago I realized I no longer thought about that fear and it's made life so much easier to focus on my passions.
Stay motivated
Shane C.